‘I couldn’t believe that it was happening to me. No one in my family had ever suffered from breast cancer, and I honestly thought that the doctors had made a mistake. Once I came to terms with it I started to act – I spoke to many doctors with my several Breast Friends, who helped me understand everything the doctor said, and feel comfortable to ask all the questions I wanted to ask. Breast Friends help you feel normal; they didn’t treat me as if I was sick or different. When I was bald after my chemo one called me and said: ‘‘I have such a terrible haircut.” I began to laugh: I can’t tell you anything about haircuts, because I don’t remember how to comb my hair. But, I understood that she just forgot that I am not like other women and that was the best gift for me. We laughed a lot after that event.’
Erika is a journalist, social activist and breast cancer survivor from Lithuania
“I’ve tried to keep positive throughout this experience and tell Erika all the time that she is a beautiful, strong and clever woman. My grandmother had breast cancer and lived happily for 25 years after her diagnosis. I was able to share her experience
with Erika, and help her feel positive about her own future. I think it’s important that her family and friends provide her with all the love, care and support we can.’
Aleksandras is an international fashion designer and public figure in Lithuania
Erika’s and Aleksandras advice:
It’s very important not to feel lonely during this period, and to have a close friend to talk to, to laugh and maybe sometimes to cry with.